WHAT I LIKE ABOUT PRAYER
For many Christians, prayer is a very profound, deeply spiritual experience. I can relate; it was for me, as well. If you listen to devotional music and sit there in the silence, concentrating on a Creator who loves you and the entire world deeply, then you can experience a very profound state of peace. Acquiring this sense of peace may take some practice for some, which would explain why, once it is attained, it is highly valued. The pressures of the day and the worries of tomorrow threaten to press in on you and interrupt your communion with God, oftentimes, but if they concentrate hard enough many Christians are able to find a way to focus on God in deep contemplation.
You might be surprised to know that there’s a lot about prayer that I don’t find anything wrong with. To understand why, try to take yourself away, for a moment, from the picture your pastor may have given you of atheism – any notion that atheism requires atheists to be connected entirely to the material and determined to be rational, without any hint of love or passion or emotion. In erasing this viewpoint from your picture of atheists, it may help you to remember that even though the pulpit minister may rail against the meaninglessness of a material existence that consists only of “atoms and molecules,” that same person often turns around and praises the works of God’s supposed creation – extolling the Niagara Falls, Orion’s Belt, Mt. Everest, the Grand Canyon, and so on.
THE PROBLEM WITH LOUIE GIGLIO, ET AL.
When I was a Christian there was a popular video by this guy named Louie Giglio in which this is done to the T. Giglio explains to his audience that we are in this massive universe, which is increasingly more stunning the more you zoom out and the more you zoom in. He then states, as the audience is reeling from awe, that this wonder and beauty has meaning because it is created by God. Now, many Christians claim their faith is strengthened by this picture. Mine was not, however. For me, it seemed as if there was this massive, huge, wonderful, overwhelming universe…and that Giglio was trying to stuff all of this into a narrow book, of about 1000 pages, whose character called “God” was one you had to follow with your entire being. An analogy that might help is that it felt like Giglio was trying to stick the entire massive cosmos into a “suitcase,” so to speak, that was so much smaller than the universe he described that there was no way it could fit.
[youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=azFFc20_Ub4[/youtube]
I began thinking: Why did the universe have to be attached to the Christian God to be wonderful? Pastors always told me it had to be, but when I actually sat down and started thinking about it, I realized that this wasn’t exactly true. There was no reason why the universe needed a God to be seen as valuable. Without God, the waterfalls worked just fine, the stars shone just as brightly, Mt. Everest was still there – and it was even more grand, because the world was REAL – this wasn’t a test, and it wasn’t something I had to force to make consistent with everything that was in a 1000 page, 2000 year old book. Other atheists have spoken to this realization, as well – leaving Christianity freed them to finally “breath” and appreciate the universe (including the people) around them more than they ever had before.
So, I say all that to tell you that reducing the world down to “atoms and molecules” doesn’t have to be depressing, although it can be if you want it to be (one great thing about atheism is that it frees you to be sad about life, and some people really enjoy seeing life from the bottom up – as Nate Ruess, the lead singer of Fun., once said in an interview, “I kind of like being depressed”). I mean, think about it – if there is no God, then the atoms and molecules ARE you and your consciousness. You’re part of the wonderful grandeur and beauty and complexity that you see around you. Not just observing it, but PART OF it. And the atoms and molecules are part of your emotions and your feelings – making your emotions just as real as every atom and molecule out there. You’re, in a very real sense, part of the world.
WHY DO PEOPLE PRAY?
Now, I’m going to stray away from what may be the popular atheist line and make a theory. I can’t prove this, but I strongly suspect (as have others who have looked into consciousness) that prayer is an attempt to remind ourselves that we are connected to all of existence. When people pray, they are often praying to God as the creator, a personal force that can get things done…at least, in the beginning of their prayer walk. As people become more “mature” in the faith of Christianity, you often hear them say that the main reason we pray is to develop a relationship with God as the creator of all things, including you – a being you are thoroughly connected to. You pray more for relationship than to get things from him; you stop trying to treat God like He is a vending machine because it becomes obvious to most Christians that He doesn’t work (that way).
But what if this desire is a desire to connect to all existence (as atheist Sam Harris tries to encourage in the video on the right, in front of a roomful of atheists, including Richard Dawkins and Daniel Dennett)?
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What if you pray to remind yourself that you are not an island in life, that you are profoundly connected to a process that brought your current frame of consciousness into being, and that every single part of you is part of the universe – not merely looking at it from the outside, but connected to it? That in spite of whatever people may say about your worth or value in belonging in the world..you belong because you’re here. Maybe in the hustle bustle of everyday life we can become so focused on the mundane that something in us gnaws at us to see the reality that we’re all profoundly connected, and maybe prayer is a way that people do that.
So that’s the part I don’t have a problem with. I like that people feel connected to their surroundings, that they feel a sense of peace and deep meaningfulness in being part of the entirety of existence.
WHAT’S YOUR PROBLEM WITH CHRISTIAN PRAYER, THEN?
The problem with Christian prayer, however, is that, in practice, it often limits rather than expands perspectives. One way it does this is by limiting your picture of humanity. Prayer to a deity that judges some as worthy of His love and others as unworthy can get you to think that YOU belong in the realm of existence, and that this belonging entitles you to certain blessings – while someone else doesn’t have the same sense of belonging. You, as a saved individual, might get blessed by God, while someone else, as an unsaved individual, may not be blessed in the same way. I’d prefer that prayer be something that doesn’t privilege a nonexistent God’s will above struggling people.
I also am trying to fight against prayer encouraging unrealistic solutions to problems. Many people depend on prayer rather than medicine for healing, and while this act may comfort the person doing the praying (and thus ease their suffering) doing so has resulted, famously, in several tragedies.
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Also, prayer about career choices, voting decisions, and scientific advancements can replace rational, careful thinking about those choices with trust in what I see as a nonexistent God. Long story short, time spent praying to change a situation is time not spent doing something more rational that would be more effective.
Furthermore, I think that prayer limits your connection to the world around you – it puts your existence under the tyranny of a nonexistent being whose image is often controlled by those in charge of the church.
So, for these reasons, I don’t think Christian prayer is a good idea. But connecting to the world around you in a way that defies the divide between the rational and emotional can be a profound experience that approaches spirituality, and I have no quarrel with the peace such a connection can provide.